See what residents and their families have to say about The Memory Center, Virginia Beach.
Dealing with dementia or Alzheimer’s disease is not easy for anyone who has a loved one impacted by these terrible conditions—it can become a burden that approaches the unbearable. My wife, Marianne, was first officially diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease in 2013, even though there were signs she was not quite herself for a few years before that, primarily in the form of personality changes.
After the diagnoses and even with the introduction of various medications, her condition continued to worsen. During this time, the thought of placing her in some type of long-term care facility was not a serious consideration. We decided to care for her at home with the assistance of professional outside help. After trying this approach for a couple of years we realized that given our situation and her increasing need for more constant and professional care, there must be a better way. After getting advice from medical professionals and contacting an agency that could help evaluate our situation, we checked out multiple long-term care facilities both on the Peninsula and Southside. While some of the places we visited were obviously not what we were looking for, several where appealing and made it to our “possible” list.
It was late in our search when a friend suggested we check out The Memory Center—I will be forever grateful for that recommendation. We scheduled a visit and were more than impressed. The place does not have the cookie cutter feel of most places we had visited but offers a charming neighborhood type atmosphere that is very inviting and comfortable. It quickly became evident that this was the place for Marianne and the feeling was confirmed by the attitude and warmth of all the staff we met.
I’ll admit there were feelings of guilt and concern when making this decision. The day Marianne was admitted was very emotional, but there has never been a moment where we doubted our decision. We immediately felt the love and sincere caring of the staff. We have been impressed with the activities and entertainment they provide, and particularly enjoy the daily social ice cream hour where we have met many relatives of residents that have become friends—people who are making this journey with you.
The way they have handled the coronavirus situation has been impressive given the vulnerability of the residents. Since face-to-face contact is not currently recommended, or allowed in this environment, they have done a lot to keep us as involved as possible. They have opened a Facebook site for families that want to participate where you frequently see your loved one and the activities they are involved in. You can schedule Facetime visits and through-the-fence visits where they bring your loved one outside to the courtyard so you are able to see and talk to them in person. Most importantly, Marianne is obviously comfortable here and is receiving care and a diversity of experiences that she would never get at home.
I highly recommend that anyone faced with a decision like this put The Memory Center at the top of their list.
– Hal Prentiss, June 2020
When I began my search for an Assisted Living for my wife Nancy who has Alzheimer’s, I toured many
Communities before finally choosing The Memory Center.
When I walked in and saw the Town Center complete with a replica of the Cape Henry Lighthouse, the Library, Movie Theater, General Store, Tavern, Beach Shack and Salon, I was very impressed at just how beautiful and clean the Community was. It looks just like a small town where there is always something fun going on. After meeting the staff, talking to other family members and seeing how well the residents were cared for it made my decision easy. Nancy has been a resident at The Memory Center for over six years now and I have not once regretted my decision. The Memory Center has become my second family and the love, support and compassion shown to myself and Nancy is genuine. The owner Kevin DiBona and staff are truly committed to providing excellent and compassionate care for each and every Resident.
I visit twice a day seven days a week and seeing just how wonderful the staff is makes me a very strong advocate for
TMC. The staff shows so much love for each and every resident and their families. The numerous and fun activities keep everyone engaged from the Entertainers that come in to sing, the ice cream socials, the arts and craft projects, parties, volunteers and pet therapy visits throughout the week have improved Nancy’s quality of life beyond my wildest imagination.
The Executive Director, Sandy Stover and her Management Team have created such a warm, invigorating and caring environment that gives me such comfort. I can go home at night knowing that Nancy is receiving the best care possible. I would be more than happy to speak with anyone to share my thoughts about The Memory Center.
– Ken Wilson, June 2020
Deciding to transition our Mother from the home she had lived over 40 years to a long-term care facility was, for our family, the most difficult decision. After several visits over the course of a year, we decided The Memory Center of Virginia Beach would be the very best place.
Nothing can ever replace home, but The Memory Center facility and staff have been exceptional. Staff will work tirelessly to accommodate the individual needs of each resident. Residents typically are there for the remainder of their life and staff is expertly trained to help each resident and family navigate this journey.
Alzheimer’s is a horrific disease, but The Memory Center is a wonderful place for a loved one to spend this final chapter of life.
We will be forever grateful of the kindness and expert care given.
– The Fred Napolitano Family, April 2020
– The Galanides Family
If I could give The Memory Center 10 stars I would.
My father passed away last week after living at The Memory Center for 2 years. Instead of suffering through the difficult later days of Alzheimer’s, he joined a family at The Memory Center and THRIVED. Every detail of the facility was a thought toward making the residents feel as comfortable and independent as possible – far more than every other home we visited. The village and neighborhood set up of The Memory Center will be obvious when you visit. What may not be as obvious is the love and caring provided by the nursing staff. If is not faked or forced – The Memory Center somehow manages to hire the most amazing people that bring a warm spirit to their work.
On my father’s last day, our family gathered by his bed. Throughout the course of the day, we were awestruck to see almost every member of the nursing staff – both on and off duty – come by to say goodbye to my dad with tears in their eyes. They didn’t avoid the room; they brought friendship, love and tenderness to him in his final hours. They were genuinely saying goodbye to a friend.
– Beth Bierman Burns (Daughter)
My mother was a resident of The Memory Center for the last five years of her life. From the first moment she felt genuine caring and she just delighted in the daily group and individual activities. As a nurse, I was particularly concerned with her physical care and nutrition and The Memory Center exceeded my expectations in ever way. As she declined, additional measures were implemented to help her mobility and allow her to continue to enjoy the music and spiritual events, to keep her hair and manicure appointments, and to participate as much as she could. Her final days were attended to with love and compassion. I recommend The Memory Center without reservation. The medical, nursing and support staff are the best.
– Nancy Kennedy
Making the decision to allow others to care for a beloved family member may be one of the most difficult decisions a family can make together. My family’s decision was so much easier that it often can be because of The Memory Center. From compassionate and understanding administrators who helped us initially – and still continue to serve us – to the licensed nurses and certified nursing assistants who care for my Mom every day, I know and trust The Memory Center to do what’s best for my Mom – no matter what. And with that trust comes peace of mind for each member of our family.
– Dr. Deborah Cunningham Breede
Finally! The kids and I knew my wife needed more attention than I could consistently give. Even she was aware of her mental changes. We had not kept the changes from one another. Her mother was an Alzheimer’s patient. We were vocal about my wife’s needs. I discussed with family and friends the best places that provided constant care. My wife went with me to observe the care given at these centers. Then it occurred! Our primary care physician asked if we knew about The Memory Center. We did not. I made arrangements for she and I to attend the center. Our son and his wife attended with us. WOW! The surprised we discovered:
- The building had four sections with similar arrangements
- A theater to see films and live performances
- A bank with money for the residents to use
- A beautician to keep the residents lovely
- A library enticingly kept
- A tavern for some who wanted it
- Nurses and assistants to provide loving care
- Thoughtful administrators to answer all questions
- Fenced grounds to allow the residents to walk among the flowers
- Chaplain led services
Well now! This is the place! Even though it took several months to decide to roll, we knew this was it! No more looking. That was nine months ago. The family still feels the same. They care.
– J. Stamey